KAZAK ERKEKLERİNİN BOŞANMAYA BAKIŞI

Aile, insan ve toplum hayatında vazgeçilmez öneme sahip en küçük sosyal kurum olarak kabul edilmiştir. Toplumların farklılıklarına rağmen aile kurumu evrenseldir. Dünya'da ailenin kurulması, sürdürülmesi farklı şekilde olmasına rağmen bütün aileler "toplumun kültürünü kuşaktan kuşağa aktarması, yeni nesilleri geleceğe hazırlaması ve soyun saf olarak devamını sağlaması" açısından bakıldığın da amaçlarının ve felsefelerinin ortaklığı ile dikkat çekmektedir. Ailenin çözülmesi veya boşanmasıyla birlikte aile fonksiyonlarını etkin şekil de yerine getiremediği için birey ve toplumu sorunların kuşattığı görülmektedir. Boşanma ile ortaya çıkan sorunlar karşısında ailenin fonksiyonlarını yerine getirmeye çalışan sosyal kurumlar (koruyucu aile, kreşler vb) olsa da ailenin fonksiyonları etkin olarak yerine getirmesi mümkün değildir. Böyle bir durum bireylerin ve toplumsal sorunların artması, çeşitlenmesi sosyal ilişkileri ve sosyal dengeleri alt üst etmektedir. Boşanmaların toplumların yapılarına göre değişmektedir. Modern toplumlarda boşanma oranları geleneksel toplumlara göre daha fazladır. Kazak toplumu geleneksel yapıya sahip olmasına çekmektedir. Öncelikle boşanmaları kontrol edebilmek veya minimize edebilmek için Kazak devletinin yasal ve sosyo-kültürel düzenlemeler yapması gerekir. tespit edilmiştir. Boşanan erkeklerin ikinci evliliği yapma oranı % 80, kadınlarınki ise %3, ve çocukların velayeti %95 annede kaldığı tespit edilmiştir. Çocukların tek ebeveynli aile ortamında büyüdükleri, yaşadıkları ve karakterlerinin de tek ebeveynli aile içerisinde şekillendiği görülmektedir. Bölünmüş aile çocuklarının geleceğe bakışı, topluma uyum sağlayamaması Kazak aile yapısını ve toplumunu tehdit eden en önemli faktörlerden birisi olduğu tespit edilmiştir

KAZAK MEN’S VIEWS ON DIVORCE

The family has been recognized as the smallest social institution having an indispensable place in human life and society. Despite the differences among societies, the family institution is believed to be universal. Although different family types exist in the world, common aims and philosophies of all families draw attention taking into account the fact that “families transmit a society's culture from generation to generation, prepare new generations to the future and enable keeping the lineage pure". The society seems to be besieged by problems as the family is decomposed or a divorce takes place since it cannot carry out its functions properly and effectively. It is impossible for family to undertake its functions properly in the face of the problems associated with divorce despite social institutions exist working to fulfill the family's function (such as foster care, day care, etc.). Such a situation results in an increase and diversification of individual and social problems and turns social relations and social equilibrium upsidedown. Divorce shows great differences with respect to the nature of the societies. The divorce rate in modern societies is higher than that of traditional societies. Kazakh society has attracted attention with high divorce rates despite having a traditional structure. The Kazakh government is in need to make legal and socio-cultural regulations in order to be able to control or minimize divorce rates. In this study, the standpoints of divorced men living in Taraz region of Kazakhstan on divorce phenomena have been investigated and a thorough analysis of the issue has been made. The results indicate that men make divorce within the first ten years of their marriages. Several factors such as infidelity diminish of love, alcohol abuse, economic hardship, illness, violence, family environment and the inability to have a child have been cited for the grounds for divorce. The ratio of the second marriage of divorced men is determined to be 80% while it is 3% for the women and it is determined that 95% of children remain in the custody of the mother. It is observed that children live and grow up in a single-parent family environment and their characters are also shaped in single-parent families. Perception of future of children of divided families and their inability to adapt to the society were identified as the most important factors that threaten the Kazakh family structure and society. STRUCTURED ABSTRACT

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  • ISSN: 1308-2140
  • Yayın Aralığı: Yılda 4 Sayı
  • Başlangıç: 2006
  • Yayıncı: Mehmet Dursun Erdem