Terapötik bir araç olarak bağışlama: İyileştirici etken olarak bağışlama olgusunun psikolojik danışma sürecinde kullanımı

Kişilerarası ilişkilerde çatışmalar ve anlaşmazlıklar kaçınılmazdır. İnsanlar ilişki odaklı toplumsal varlıklar oldukları için danışanların psikolojik danışma sürecinde yardım aradıkları problemlerinin temelinde kişilerarası ilişkilerin yatması çok doğaldır. Danışanlara psikolojik danışma sürecinde etkili bir şekilde yardımcı olabilmek için psikolojik danışmanların bağışlama kavramı ve süreci ve bağışlamanın iyileştirici bir etken olarak kullanılmasını bilmeleri önemlidir. Bu çalışmada danışanların kişilerarası ilişkilerde yaşadıkları kalp kırıklıkları, incinmeler ve hatta travmatik deneyimler ile baş etmelerine yardımcı olmak için bağışlama olgusunun iyileşmeyi kolaylaştırıcı terapötik bir araç olarak kullanılması üzerinde durulmuştur. Buna bağlı olarak öncelikle bağışlama kavramı ve bağışlama süreci, bir kişilik özelliği olarak bağışlayıcılık ve bağışlamanın ruh sağlığı ile ilişkisi hakkında bilgi verilmiş, daha sonra ikili ilişkilerde yaşanan olumsuz duygularla baş etme araçlarından biri olarak bağışlamanın psikolojik danışma sürecindeki yeri tartışılmıştır.

Forgiveness as a therapeutic tool: Using forgiveness for healing in the counseling process

Interpersonal conflicts and misunderstandings are unavoidable in relationships. Since humans are social, relational beings, it is very natural that the problems about which clients seek help in counseling are rather interpersonal problems. In order for counselors to be effectively helpful in the counseling process, it is important that therapists are knowledgeable in the concept of forgiveness, processes of forgiveness and the use of forgiveness as a theraputic tool. This paper presents the use of forgiveness as a therapeutic tool to help the clients to deal with a broken heart, being hurt in interpersonal relationships and even dealing with traumatic experiences. The information provided are the concept and process of forgiveness, forgivingness as a personality trait, and forgiveness and mental health. In addition, forgiveness is discussed in the counseling process as a therapeutic tool to help clients deal with transgressions in interpersonal relationships.

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