Sibel DİNÇYÜREK, Yeliz AKINTUĞ, Müge BEİDOĞLU

Conflict areas and conflict resolution strategies of college students with friends and romantic partners

Bu çalışmanın amacı, üniversite öğrencilerinin arkadaş ve romantik partnerleri ile yaşadıkları ana çatışma konularını belirlemek ve kullandıkları çatışma çözme stratejilerinin ilişki türüne göre farklılık gösterip göstermediğini araştırmaktır. Bu çalışmanın örneklemi, Psikolojik Danışma ve Rehberlik (PDR) bölümünde okumakta olan gönüllü 19 lisans öğrencisinden oluşmuştur. Veriler, yapılandırılmamış anı yazımı yöntemi ile toplanmıştır. İki hafta boyunca tutulan anılar, içerik çözümlemesi yöntemi ile analiz edilmiştir. Bu çalışmanın ilk amacına ilişkin olarak, arkadaş ile yaşanılan çatışmalarda en yüksek oranda akademik anlaşmazlık; romantic partner ile kıskançlık ana çatışma konusu olarak bulunmuştur. İkinci amaca ilişkin olarak ise, olumlu çatışma çözümleme stratejilerinin romantik partnerle yaşanan çatışmalarda sıklıkla kullanıldığı bulunmuştur. Bulgular, çatışma çözme ve sosyal değişim kuramları bağlamında tartışılmıştır.

Arkadaşlık ve romantik ilişkilerinde üniversite öğrencilerinin yaşadıkları çatışmalar ve kullandıkları çatışma çözme stratejileri

The purpose of this study is to explore the major conflicts college students experience with their friends and romantic partners, and to investigate whether conflict resolution strategies vary as a function of the relationships in which the conflicts occur. A total of 19 undergraduate students majoring in Psychological Counseling and Guidance (PCG) volunteered to take part in the study. Data was collected using the unstructured diary format method. Content analysis is used to examine two-week diary entries. Regarding the first aim of this study, disagreements in academic work received the highest percentage between friends. In addition, jealousy was the highest conflicting theme between romantic partners. Regarding the second aim of this study, findings suggested that participants used constructive strategies more frequently with romantic partners than with friends. The results were discussed using the conflict resolution and social exchange theory.

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