Zülal ERKAN, Ali ŞIK, Ali KARATAŞ

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Ghosting: ''Bir Ayrılık Stratejisi Olarak Ortadan Kaybolma''

Ghosting, herhangi bir açıklama yapılmadan bir ilişkiyi bitirmeyi ve partnerin tüm ulaşım kanallarını kapatarak bir ‘’yok olma’’ eylemini ifade etmektedir. Ghostingde partnerle sosyal medya üzerinden iletişim kesilerek bireyin kendini geri çekilmesi yoluyla ilişki sonlandırılmaktadır. Bunun sonucunda ghostingi uygulayan kişinin hiçbir açıklama yapmadan ortadan kaybolması, maruz kalana belirsizlikten kaynaklanan stres yaşatacak, endişe ve kafa karışıklığına neden olabilmektedir. Ghostinge maruz kalan bireyler ghosterlardan belki bir cevap alabilecekleri düşüncesiyle iletişime geçebilmektedirler. Romantik ilişkinin herhangi bir evresinde ortaya çıkabilen bu durumun, ruh sağlığı üzerinde ciddi etkilerinin olduğu görülmektedir. Ghosteelerin; yaşamları üzerinde kontrollerine olan inançları, özsaygıları, aidiyet ihtiyaçları ve anlamlı varoluşa sahip olduklarına yönelik inançları sarsılmaktadır. Bu çalışmada ghosting’i tanımlamak; ortaya çıkış nedenlerini, sonuçlarını ve psikolojik etkilerini açıklayarak alandaki Ghosting kavramına yönelik bir eksikliği doldurmak ve ruh sağlığı çalışanlarına bir farkındalık çerçevesi sağlamak amaçlanmaktadır.
Anahtar Kelimeler:

Ghosting, Romantik İlişkiler, Ayrılık Stratejileri

Ghosting: ''Disappearance as a Relationship Dissolution Strategy

Ghosting refers to the act of ending a relationship without any explanation and closing all the partner's transportation channels, almost an act of "extinction". In ghosting, communication with the partner is cut off via social media and the relationship is terminated by withdrawal of the individual. As a result, ghoster will cause stress, anxiety and confusion to the ghostee due to uncertainty. Afterwards, ghostee can try to contact them with the thought that they can get an answer from the ghosters who suddenly cut off communication with them. This situation, seems to have serious effects on mental health. Individuals exposed to ghosting; their belief in control over their lives, their self-esteem, their need for belonging, and their belief that they have a meaningful existence are shaken. In this study, to define ghosting, It is aimed to fill a gap in the concept of ghosting in the field by explaining the reasons for its emergence, the results and psychological effects of this situation, and to provide an awareness framework for mental health professionals on this issue.
Keywords:

Ghosting, Romantic Relationships, Romantic Dissolution Strategies,

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  • ISSN: 2651-5490
  • Yayın Aralığı: Yılda 2 Sayı
  • Başlangıç: 2018
  • Yayıncı: Türk Psikolojik Danışma ve Rehberlik Derneği
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