Nihal SALMAN, Meryem KARAAZİZ, Buse KESKİNDAĞ

KKTC'DE EVLİ BİREYLERİN EVLİLİĞE KARŞI TUTUMLARI, ÇATIŞMA VE ALDATMA EĞİLİMLERİNİN İNCELENMESİ

Amaç: Bu araştırmanın genel amacı, evli bireyler arasındaki, evlilik uyumu, aldatma eğilimi ve çatışma eğilimi arasındaki ilişkileri incelemek aynı zamanda, cinsiyet ile her bir değişken arasındaki ilişkiyi de açıklamaktır. Yöntem: Evlilikte Uyum, Çatışma Eğilimi ve Aldatma Eğilimi ölçekleri veri toplama aracı olarak kullanılmıştır. Kuzey Kıbrıs Türk Cumhuriyeti’nde, kartopu tekniği ile oluşturulan örneklemden 120 evli bireyden elde edilen veriler değerlendirilmiştir. Bulgular: Araştırmaya katılan bireylerin %50,8’i kadın, %49,2’si ise erkektir. Elde edilen bulgulara göre, hem kadınlar ve hem de erkekler için, evlilikte uyum ve çatışma arasında negatif korelasyon olduğu tespit edilmiştir, uyum arttıkça çatışma azalmaktadır. Aynı zamanda, kadınlarda ve erkeklerde çatışma ve aldatma eğilimi arasında, pozitif korelasyon olduğu ve evlilikte çatışma eğilimi arttıkça aldatma eğiliminin de arttığı saptanmıştır. Genel olarak katılımcı bireylerin aldatma eğiliminde oldukları fakat kadınlar ve erkeklerin aldatma eğilimi açısından anlamlı şekilde farklılaşmadıkları tespit edilmiştir. Sonuç: Aldatma ve çatışma eğiliminin evlilik uyumunu olumsuz etkileyebileceği dikkate alındığında bu araştırma, evlilik uyumunu inceleyecek olan araştırmalara ve evli insanlarla çalışan danışmanlara yol gösterici olabilir.

Anahtar Kelimeler:

evlilik, tutum, çatışma

EXAMINING RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN MARITAL ADJUSTMENT, TENDENCY FOR CONFLICT AND CHEATING AMONG MARRIED COUPLES

Objective: The aim of this study was to examine the relationships between marital adjustment, tendency of conflict and cheating among married individuals. The current study also considers whether there are relationships between gender and each of variables. Method: The Marital Adjustment Scale, Tendency of Conflict Scale and Tendency of Cheating Scale were used as measurement tools in the current study. Snowball sampling technique was used and responses of 120 married individuals in Turkish Republic of Northern Cyprus were evaluated. Results: 50.8% of the participants were female while 49.2% of them were male. It has been found that there was a negative correlation between marital adjustment and conflict among both married women and men that is; when marital adjustment increases, the tendency of conflict decreases among married individuals. Also, there was a positive correlation between the tendency of conflict and cheating among both married women and men in other words; when the tendency of conflict increases, the tendency of cheating also rises among married individuals. The findings have generally suggested that there was a tendency to cheat among married individuals yet there was no significant difference between men and women in terms of the tendency of cheating. Conclusion: Considering the tendency of conflict and cheating negatively affect the marital adjustment, the current study can be helpful; for psychotherapists who work with married individuals as well as for future studies aiming to examine marital relationships.

Keywords:

marriage, attitudes, conflict,

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