Evlilikte bağışlama: Evlilik uyumu ve yüklemelerin rolü

Bu çalışmada, Türk evli çiftlerin evlilik ilişkilerinde yaşadıkları tek bir ihlali bağışlamalarını yordayan değişkenler hakkında bilgi edinilmesi amaçlanmıştır. Bu amaçla, 80 evli çifte Evlilikte Uyum Ölçeği, İlişkilerde Yükleme Ölçeği ve Suça İlişkin Kişilerarası Motivasyonlar Ölçeği uygulanmıştır. Bulgular, yüklemelerin özellikle sorumluluk yüklemelerinin, bağışlamanın en iyi yordayıcısı olduğunu göstermiştir. Evli kadınlar için sadece sorumluluk yüklemeleri bağışlamanın en iyi yordayıcısı olarak görülürken, evli erkeklerde sorumluluk yüklemeleri ile evlilik uyumu bağışlamayı en iyi yordayan değişkenler olarak bulunmuştur. Ayrıca sadece incinme derecesi yönünden cinsiyetler arasında bir farklılık gözlenmiştir. Diğer bir deyişle, evli kadınlar evli erkeklere göre zararı daha incitici bulmuşlardır. Son olarak, zararın şiddeti arttıkça bağışlamanın zorlaştığı bulunmuştur.

Forgiveness in marriage: The role of marital adjustment and attributions

The purpose of this study was to obtain information related to the predictive variables of forgiveness among Turkish married couples who had experienced a specifi c offense in their marriage. In accordance with this purpose, Marital Adjustment Test, Relationship Attribution Measure and Transgression-Related Interpersonal Motivations Inventory were administered to 80 married couples. The results demonstrated that attributions especially responsibility attributions were the best predictor of forgiveness. For wives, responsibility attributions were seen to predict forgiveness, for husbands responsibility attributions and marital adjustment were the best predictors of forgiveness. In addition, sexes were differ only among transgression severity. In other words, wives found the transgression more hurtful than their husbands. Finally, it was found that the more severe the transgression increased, the more diffi cult the forgiveness became.

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