Spiritual Counseling for Bereaved Parents

This review aims to understand the psychological conditions of families who have lost one or more of their children, identify topics that can be studied with parents, explain how spirituality can be used while working with bereaved parents, and provide information about how child mourning can be considered within spiritual counseling. This study also presents spiritual resources that can be utilized while working with religious families. The main purpose is to create a framework and to contribute to the counseling process by offering spiritual resources to counselors who will work with religious families that have experienced child loss. The review explains the process of grief and grief theories before discussing topics identified on the basis of the meaning reconstruction model, one of the grief theories, from a spiritual counseling perspective. This will demonstrate that there are spiritually oriented techniques that can be used while working with bereaved families.

Çocuk Kaybı Yaşayan Ailelerle Manevi Danışmanlık

Bu derlemede, çocuklarını kaybeden ailelerin psikolojik durumlarının anlaşılması, ebeveynlerle birlikte incelenebilen konuların saptanması, yaslı ebeveynlerle çalışırken maneviyatın nasıl kullanılabileceğinin açıklanması ve çocuk yasının nasıl olduğu hakkında bilgi verilmesi amaçlanmıştır. Bu çalışma aynı zamanda dindar ailelerle birlikte çalışılabilecek manevi kaynakları da içermektedir. Ana amaç, bir çerçeve oluşturmak ve çocuk kaybını yaşayan dindar ailelerle birlikte çalışacak danışmanlara manevi kaynaklar sunarak danışmanlık sürecine katkıda bulunmaktır. Derlemede, yas süreci ve yas teorileri açıklanmaktadır. Yas teorilerinden biri olan anlam yapılandırma modeli temel alınarak tanımlanan konular manevi danışmanlık perspektifinden ele alınmaktadır. Aynı zamanda, çocuk kaybı yaşamış ailelerle çalışırken kullanılabilecek manevi tekniklere de yer verilmiştir

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